OUCH MY TRAUMA HURTS (OMTH)
TRIGGER ALERT- THIS IS ABOUT FAMILY VIOLENCE.
One day it occurred to me that I was seeing people who were frightened by threats and other forms of emotional abuse- in the absence of ongoing physical abuse. Even without physical harm, the words and actions were enough to cause trauma. The threat to be killed, have your children harmed or taken away, and have a killing of your parents, pet, etc.- these were terrifying traumatic events. Sometimes a physical abusive event like choking had occurred and was remembered when the threat to choke was heard. While someone may not have been shot, having a gun aimed at their head or elsewhere was terrifying.
Other forms of emotional abuse include negation and discounting. In negation, we are told that we have absolutely no worthwhile ideas or thoughts. In fact, we are nothing. Decisions are made without consulting us because others define reality and our perceptions have no place. Discounting allows us the existence of our ideas, wishes, self, but all that comes from us is worthless, stupid, unknowing- ‘I’ll tell you what happened since you are obviously wrong!’
In tyranny, leaders insist that they have the truth. Any journalist, expert, or citizen who disagrees with them is seen as disrespectful and even dangerous. Tyrannical leaders feel entitled to be powerful and right. Obedience is expected. In the tyrannical process, emotional abuse includes one person defining reality. Anyone who disagrees may be labeled as treasonous and against their country. Groups can be defined as harmful and deserving of expulsion or harmful treatment. When others witness violence toward these groups, they can (as well as those experiencing actual violence) be traumatized- sometimes we feel guilt and helplessness.
We can seek relief in the support of others and growing confidence in ourselves. And in the smell of flowers.
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