We can recognize our own or others’ trauma. We may see zoning out, anxiety symptoms like being irritable or over-eating/drinking/unprescribed medicine-taking. Sometimes people with trauma actually hear or see things that are not really there. Crazy? Not at all! Trauma is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation: Sexual/emotional/physical abuse can lead to fearful, distrusting, or avoidance (of intimacy) reactions. So, trauma includes reactions to horror that seem quite sensible and adjusting to horrific events. Even witnessing violence toward others can be traumatizing!
And not being able to protect others from violence can lead to moral injury where shame and self-disgust can haunt us at the time and long after. We may even blame ourselves when, during war, we make mistakes and harm innocent people.

Survivor’s guilt can occur when we survive, yet others have been harmed or killed. This can happen in wartime or during accidents and hostage situations.
Getting therapy with those who can identify and help with trauma can keep us safe. Evaluators like me have to assess people often long after the traumatic event when the haunting horror has caught up. And, if your loved one hesitates to go for treatment, it would be wonderful for you to go with- what a gift!

Disclaimer: The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice. Always consult a qualified professional for specific concerns.